February 2010 Reading
February 2010 Reading
 Type: LossOsa Meji |
 Ibi Odi Meji |
 Primary Odu: Iwori Meji |
The annual reading speaks of the need to examine self and see your self as you truly are and not as you believe yourself to be.
The February reading continues on this theme with the the need to look more closely at our relationships (Ose Odi)and what beliefs (Iwori Meji) we act out in our personal,intimate relationships that could lead to the loss of the relationship (ibi Odi Meji). Now is the time to be truly honest withourselves before attempting to be honest with others. We have been believing something about ourself that is not true.
We are the product of our past. More often than not, we enter in intimate relationships bringing the past and unresolved bagge with us into that relationship. These unresloved issues impact our behaviors in a negative way due to our projecting onto the current partner those unresloved issues. We then wonder why there is a problem in the relationship.
We may carry beliefs such as,” so and so was unfaithful,therefore my current partner will be unfaithful”. We then snoop into our partner’s emails, and cell phone; question our partner relentlessly about where they are going and what they are doing, even though the partner has done nothing to warrant that type of behavior.
Iwori Meji implies that the belif system impacting the relationship is more subtle than the example above. Let’s say some one abused you as a child then gave you gifts and trinkets to please you. Over time, you forget the abuse but remember the gifts. You then develop a belief that money and gits equate with love. In your current relationship your partner does not always give you money or gifts and you conclude that your partnerdoes not love you. You begin pressuring your partner for money and gifts when what you are actually looking for are demonstrations of love and attention.
The reading suggests that you begin with with the feeling of not feeling loved and look back through your relationships to find the patern. Keep looking until you you come to the relationship where the feelings began. Exmanie that relationship closely, from and adult perspective; the gifts given to you as a child and when. While the child may see the behaviors and subsequent gifts as demonstrations of love, the adult may see it as “hush money” and that it was not love nor demonstrations of love at all that wer received as a child. The adult would then be required to redefine what it means to be loved and to re-examine the current relationship from that perspective; hopefully before the relationship is seriously damaged or lost.
In addition, the adult will need to heal the child that was abused. Feelings of betrayl, abandonment, and rage may surface in the example given above. Let these surface so the child can release the truth of what was experienced and the adult can let go.
The reading suggests that the issues needing clarification are just below the surface, trying to rise
and it is important to release the resistance to seeing the truth about you. Seek emotional and spiritual support during this time to work with these issues.
